An Uncommon Bond

Oct 20, 2022

I recently read a great book, and I want to share it with you.  “An Uncommon Bond,” written by Jeff Brown, is a love story which illustrates how a great love can be a portal to the Divine, even if it doesn’t last a lifetime.  Love’s endings, can be very painful. However, as Jeff says, love isn’t measured in time, but in transformation.  I wholeheartedly agree.

Here is a powerful excerpt from his book:

“Sometimes people walk away from love because it is so beautiful that it terrifies them.  Sometimes they leave because the connection shines a bright light on their dark places and they are not ready to work them through.  Sometimes they run away because they are not developmentally prepared to merge with another – they have more individuation work to do first. Sometimes they take off because love is not a priority in their lives – they have another path and purpose to walk first.  Sometimes they end it because they prefer a relationship that is more practical than conscious, one that does not threaten the ways that they organize reality.  Because so many of us carry shame, we have a tendency to personalize love’s leavings, triggered by the rejection and feelings of abandonment.  But this is not always true. Sometimes it has nothing to do with us.  Sometimes the one who leaves is not just ready to hold it safe.  Sometimes they know something we don’t – they know their limits at that moment in time. Real love is no easy path:  Readiness is everything.  May we grieve loss without personalizing it.  May we learn to love ourselves in the absence of the lover.”


Suzanne E. Grandchamp


Learn more about Jeff and his book here.